How to make (real life) friends and alienate blog readers

In case you hadn’t realized it already – and I won’t be offended if you didn’t realize it at all – let me draw attention to the fact that my blog activity has been almost non-existent for the better part of the past 6 months or more. On the bright side, I did at least manage to write a post whenever I ran a race to keep with running blogger tradition and I didn’t let my domain name expire. I take my victories where I can get them.

The greatest reason for my absence merits its own post. Surprise! It’s not a post completely blowing how busy I’ve been out of proportion. Let’s be real, I haven’t been that busy.

Busy Meme

I’ll start from the beginning.

For a long time – round about 4 years – I ran a lot of miles mostly alone. And it was nice. I am a pretty introverted person so I don’t dread the notion of exercising for two hours alone with my own thoughts and some (subjectively) good music. I grew to love running on my own, did 20 mile training runs alone, and made some really obvious improvements in speed and ability by forging my own path and having only me to hold myself accountable for my training.

But when I came home from my solo runs, at some point I found I needed an outlet to spout off at the mouth about the highs and lows of running and training. And that is how this blog became a regular part of my life. I loved coming here and to my social media accounts to say what was on my mind (which, let’s be honest, more often than not has to do with running) and have people chime in with comments. I also loved reading and seeing other peoples’ experiences online and how much I could relate to them. All of that, without ever having to step out of my comfort zone and have awkward interactions with people face to face.

Sometime last summer, around when I was finding myself in a bit of a running rut, the online interactions weren’t feeling like the same outlet that they used to be. And on top of that, I was desperately needing some real live motivation to get myself back into a good place with running after returning from a minor injury and feeling like I had lost so much of my fitness.

So I ultimately stepped out of my asocial comfort zone and found that motivation. I started tagging along with the Bull City Track Club – a team of runners put together by my favorite local running store, Bull City Running Company.

BCRF 3

After the Bull City Race Fest Half Marathon.

As I met more new people during group runs and races, I found out that I was not nearly as shy and uncomfortable conversing with new people while running as I was standing still. Who knows why. But it helped me find a really amazing group of (real life) running friends.

Since I started running with friends multiple times a week and have generally spent more time around people who share my running obsession, I have more than enough in-person outlets to spout off to about the highs and lows of running and training. So I think, as a result, my motivation to write blog posts has taken a real hit.

I’m glad that the blog has taken the backseat. Because the new real life friends that I have found in the meantime are pretty fantastic. They’ve renewed my love of running and pushed me to run better than I thought I could.

BCRC

Having all the fun at the Greater Triangle Beer Mile.

While I am not sure if/when I will ever get back to the habit of writing posts multiple times a week, I am going to try to save a little more of my thoughts and time to put toward keeping the blog more active in the coming months.

Thanks to all who are still reading for sticking around!

Do you prefer to run with friends or run solo? 

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6 thoughts on “How to make (real life) friends and alienate blog readers

  1. It depends. I like both.

    You have a very good reason for not blogging. Blog when you feel like it. We all have different reasons for blogging. If your need is being met by having running friends -great. Don’t force yourself to blog. Maybe there’s another need that the blog can fulfill. I’m glad you’re happy in life and with running.

    • Thanks for the encouraging words! I have been reminding myself that the blog isn’t a chore and I don’t need to feel guilty when I set it aside for a while. After all, I’m doing it mostly for me!

  2. I don’t think I like these new people coming into your life (of course, I hadn’t blogged for over a month until I posted yesterday, but it’s not because I found cooler friends.) 😦

    Seriously, glad you found a good group, and I hope you don’t give up blogging entirely. I would miss you!

    • I don’t think I’ll be giving it up entirely. Because I would miss having it there to write when I wanted to and to interact with other bloggers. Like you of course! I would miss you too!

  3. This is EXACTLY what happened to me. Suddenly I have a legitimate social life and I don’t “need” blogging in the same way anymore. I’m so happy for you!! I missed some aspects of blogging but for the most part, I’m all about living my life in the real world these days.

    • Exactly! I have still been reading all my favorite blogs even though I haven’t been writing myself. And when you took a blogging break I totally related. Seems like you have found a good balance with blogging and real life fun. I am still pushing blogging pretty far down my priority list these days. Maybe it will work its way back up there eventually 🙂

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